How Long Is Too Long???

How long is too long to wait for that bling bling engagement ring? Should there be a time limit put on getting engaged? What do you think??

Personally for me, I believe there should be no time limit put on getting engaged, but in the same token how long do you plan to live in sin? Everybody is different, I don't believe that's something that should be rushed. Take your time, I take marriage seriously so I'll never rush into something that major. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have no plans on getting married anytime soon, now don't get it twisted I love him wholeheartedly and I know he feels the same, but there are still things we learn about each other EVERYDAY and with that said we are going to take our time! Hey, look at Beyonce & Jay-Z, they started dating in either 2001 or 2002 and they didn't marry until 2008, do you think that was too long to wait? I think if that's what worked for them, then it was a perfect time to wait. Now as far as living in sin goes, no one sin is greater than the next. So a couple living together out of wedlock is no worse than a murderer! There's people that go to church every Sunday that won't make it into Heaven! God knows my heart and that's all that matters to me! :)

Can He Really Change? (For The Ladies)

Question: Do you think it's possible for a man to change & become faithful after always being unfaithful?

So, you see the question, lets hear your opinions!

I personally think it depends on the person. I won't say a man can't change because everybody can change, the question is does he really want to change? If a man has always gotten away with doing his thing even if you find out about it then the chances are, he's going to continue to do whatever it is that you allow him to do.

Example: If he cheats & you find out, he apologizes, you forgive him & he does it again & he apologizes & you forgive him, then the chances are he will probably keep doing it, I mean why would he change if he knows he can have his cake & eat a big 'ol slice right in your face too?

Anybody (man or woman) will only do what you allow them to do. I can speak from personal experience. My ex cheated a few times and I stayed until one day I decided he is really not what I needed him to be for me! I wanted more from a man, wanted to be treated like a queen, I had to learn to love me first. Once I let his ass go, he then decided he wanted to send me roses, get a job & be everything I wanted him to be now that I don't want his ass, but then it was too late, I was over him. Trust me ladies when you're over a man you will know and until then you will stay & deal with the BS!

I Love Everything About You

I love everything about you, from the way you talk to the swag in your walk.
I love the sweet kisses you place all over me, the way you AIM to please me sweeps me off my feet.
I love your respect for women, lets me know you'll always keep me on a thrown.
I love the way you work for yours, harder than any man I've known.
Everything about you drives me up the wall; I never thought my heart could feel this way, damn I was wrong.
You've introduced me to a love that I've never known, opened my eyes to things I've never seen.
Being in love with you is like a dream, but I'm wide awake and you're really here with me.
Oh how I love everything about you.

Abusive Relationships...

Soooo, been gone, but back now! =)

This topic may or may not hit home for a lot of people, but either way I would like to know your views on Abusive Relationships. Yes, I've been there & although it was not physical it was verbal & that is still abuse!! A lot of women need to understand that screaming & yelling, calling you "bitches" & "hoes" or anything to that nature, anything that hurts is ABUSE! Just because his ass might buy you something nice afterwards or takes you out to dinner & apologizes does NOT make it okay, sweetie that's far from love. Although abuse is more common for a man towards a woman, don't get it twisted...there are abusive women out there too & just because it's a woman doing it doesn't make it alright, females get no pass on this! My ex was only verbally abusive towards me when he was drunk & back then I used that as an excuse for his actions...SHIIIIIIT, never again. There is no excuse for abuse, PERIOD! So people let me know how you guys & gals feel about this topic....

It's been a minute...

Good morning,



I know, I know, it's been FOREVER, but I am back (I hope). Lol. I hope everybody has been blessed & I will be back shortly with a post...

Question: Is it EVER okay to date one of your friends ex-boyfriends? What if it was her ex-boyfriend from middle school or even high school & y'all are grown now, would that be okay?

What if you had a friend that dated a guy, but they never had sex, is it okay to date him then?

What if you meet a guy and you two go out on a date, maybe even a few of them, then you start telling ya girl about this dude and she says "girl, I used to go out with him, but that's old news you can have him" would you continue to date him or would you be like "ewww, I don't want your leftovers" & tell the dude to kick rocks?

What if they had a serious relationship (yes, knocking boots & all) and it ended on BAD terms (wanna kill each other bad terms) would you date him then?

What would you do in those situations???

Does size really matter...?

This one is for the ladies, but fellas I would like to hear your input also. So, lets say you meet a dude and he is oh-so-fine, conversation is good, he's well dressed, has a job (a legal job), a nice car, smart, just the perfect gentleman! You guys go out for a while, then "that night" comes, yeah, the night when you two are about to make magic happen. You two are going through the "foreplay process" then it's time, you finally see what he is working with and BAM!!! his package is smaller then your middle finger! Yeah, straight up premature penis. What do you do??? Ladies, does the fact that he's the perfect gentleman matter to you anymore? Is the FACT that he has an itsy bitsy penis a REASON to say "Uhhh..can you never, ever, ever, EVER call me again, thanks!" OR do you look past the toddler penis and take into consideration that he has treated you like nothing less than a Queen? Whatever shall you do in a situation as such???